When the soul leaves the body, what shape is it?

When the soul leaves the body, what shape is it?

Under a flower moon in 2025, I found myself often ruminating on this group prompt introduced to me in death doula training. What is the shape of a soul? My fellow doulas brought their own objects: a book, a raindrop. I wrote my response and texted it to my therapist, hoping to memorialize the moment and calm my mind. The discussion has stayed with me. What do you think?

Especially now, raising my one-year-old, who is just beginning to see the world with curious, skeptical eyes. Magic and mystery live right here. I’m reminded of that constantly.

How much fun it can be! Not knowing what comes next.

What is the shape of a soul?

I think our souls are shaped like a long piece of rope,
tied in a special knot when we are born,
an ancient knot, woven from ancestral decisions and circumstance.
It is beautiful to behold,
intricate as the pupil of an eye,
with colors spanning every wavelength
of reflected light.
A few drawn to its mystery, try to untie it,
to solve the puzzle of their generation.

“We must break free from our past,"
seeking the serenity of slack line.

This knot is cleverly tied; every life is.
Its design ensures it always tightens when touched.
Not a puzzle we can solve. Now I begin to understand my own unknowing.

I learn to let the knot fulfill its purpose.
Time weathers the rope,
wearing it thin,
until the final fiber breaks.
That unique knot is forever gone somewhere.

How do we preserve ourselves, here, secured by just a rope?

As time brings stronger winds, the knot’s value grows clearer
and becomes our saving grace.

Miranda Sita | April 18, 2025, Bainbridge Island, WA

Miranda, in a rainbow sweater, carries her son as the walk around Suquamish: purple rhododendrons and lodge-style building in the background.
Walking around the Suquamish resort with my baby while we charged the car nearby.
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